By Theresa Pfister
It was my first month of teaching and it wasn’t going particularly well. A native Midwesterner, I laughed loudly and smiled easily, two of the worst possible things a new teacher could do.
“Your lesson was good,” my coach told me, “but you’re coming off as too warm. Too friendly.”
“They’re going to walk all over you.”
“You’re here to teach them, right?”
“Then stop trying to be their friend, and be their boss.”
Author Bio: Theresa Pfister is a PhD student at the University of Virginia. Her research focuses on adolescence, the importance of relationships, and equity. An educator first and foremost, she believes deeply in the importance of working in partnership with schools, communities, and students and using research as a tool to empower others.